Dear Harlan,
This is in response to the letter from "Stuck." I want her to know that she is not alone. I, too, was in a mentally abusive relationship, but it was for five years. During this time, he cheated on me twice, and I held on thinking it was the only love I was ever going to find. I thought about the relationship and the damage it was doing to me emotionally, and I left the relationship with more confidence then I've ever had. It is a hard road getting over that abusive love, because you are attached to the idea of that person being your soul mate. But trust me when I say that leaving him behind will be the best and strongest choice you might ever make. It's been about two years since I walked away, and since then, I have found a true relationship with a gentleman who treats me as an equal and a life partner. We are engaged now and are getting married next spring. There is light around the corner. You will find the right guy for you.
Unstuck
Dear Unstuck,
I love letters of support like this. To all those exes and partners in unhealthy, unhappy and abusive relationships who feel like they have no options — you're wrong. You have endless options. We live in a world of endless options. The moment you lose sight of this is the moment you need to get help and reach out to the people who love you and have loved you through the years. There is something better out there. Don't take it from me — take it from Unstuck.
I Too was in a relationship that I couldn't be happier was over. It was overall just bad news. I was cheated on multiple times (and lied to about it on more than one occasion). You would be surprised how easy it can be to unexpectedly find love. With in a couple of Months I found a new relationship that is SIGNIFICANTLY better than the one that I was in before. I realize that it was a very abusive relationship, and it has effected my current relationship in terms of trust
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