Dear Harlan,
I've been on both the receiving and giving end of rejection and wanted to share my story. I don't know if it will give anyone insight, because it was rather shallow. But sometimes, people are.
I met "Jack" on a lark when I posted on a Web site looking for someone to chill out with that night. We really hit it off via instant messaging, and he seemed too good to be true. We decided to meet the next day, but I got cold feet and bailed. I ended up meeting him the day after, and it was pretty cool. He was into me and I loved his personality, but I
wasn't attracted to him. We went out one more time and sent each other texts every day for the next three weeks (he travels for work). He was looking forward to seeing me, but I decided I
couldn't deal with the thought of us being any more intimate than kissing. I basically stopped returning his calls and answering his texts. It was easier to allow him to believe that perhaps I died falling into a vat of ice cream rather than to flat-out say "I'm not really into you." Besides, I'm horribly insecure myself. I was afraid he might say something horrible back to me to save face. This is horrible, and I'm well aware of it. But this is entirely what people mean when they say "It's not you, it's me." This time, it was about me.
Next2Nothing
Dear Next2Nothing,
Thanks for being so honest. Sadly, this is how most people do it.
For all you know, this guy could have been cool with rejection. He might have wanted to be friends. Then, who knows what could have happened? But Rejection By Silence doesn't result in answers. RBS just creates more questions and leaves more people even more uncomfortable (you included).
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