Dear Harlan,
I've been rejected by the same guy for a second time. The first time it was because he said he felt like he wanted more. He then went on to date someone else for a couple months. As of a few weeks ago, things started to develop between us again. We actually started seeing each other for a couple weeks. I was happier than ever, especially because I had a gut feeling that things were not resolved the first time around. Then, after a very romantic night, he ended things again. Basically, his reason was that if he was going to continue being this physical with a girl, it would have to be mean something. OUCH. To top it off, he makes things super awkward in class. We have insane chemistry and every other thing in common. Mind you, this IS the sweet, smart, slightly geeky guy who is supposed to come after dating the jerks! The only reasons I can think of to account for his decision are that he is graduating, while I have another year. Or, he still is a virgin and has never gotten as physical with a girl as he has with me, so maybe it was too fast. Lastly, he is Jewish and I am only half-Jewish. Are any of these valid explanations for why he ended things when I know that we would honestly be a great couple?
Still Looking for Answers
Dear Looking for Answers,
You might be half-Jewish, but he's 100 percent full of (fill in the blank). I don't know why he's doing this to you for a second time. All you can do is give him permission to share the truth, even if the truth might hurt your feelings. Tell him you want to understand what went wrong, even if it hurts, so you can avoid getting into a similar situation again. If he's not interested in sharing the truth, assume you're too honest, too beautiful and too desirable to sit around waiting for him to realize his mistake. In dating, it's two strikes and he's out (three strikes is for baseball).
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