Super Cute Girl Needs Help With Crush

Hey Harlan,

There is this guy in my history class who is a super-cute guy and pretty serious with school. I want to strike up a conversation with him, but I can't find anything to talk about with him. I want to get to know him well, and maybe make the move, and ask if he wants to hang out sometime. So, what do guys like to talk about with girls? I enjoy sports and he is going out for baseball! Or maybe there is a place or group I could ask about this kind of stuff you might know of or recommend. Plus, I am a sophomore and this is the first year in high school that I'm liking someone special.

Heidi

Dear Heidi,

You've always got history and that's at least 2009 years. Here, I'll give you something even better than history to help. Give him permission to NOT want you as a girlfriend. See, the reason you're not able to talk about anything is because you're too busy worrying if he likes you. If you can give him permission to NOT want you, then you'll have room in your head to think clearer. Then you can talk to him about your life, his life or Rihanna and Chris Brown's life. (Note: NO ONE SHOULD EVER BE HIT OR HIT IN A RELATIONSHIP). Just understand that some guys get scared of women. Therefore, it might take time for him to get comfortable opening up.