Girlfriend Can't Stop Lying To Herself

Dear Harlan,

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We decided to have sex for the first time, and I was a virgin. I only agreed to it because he said he was a virgin too. However, he has lied about a lot of things to me. He lied about talking to a girl he used to like while we were dating. When I gave him an ultimatum, he picked me. Later, I found out he was still talking to her. I gave him a final ultimatum, and he finally stopped talking to her. He has lied about his money situation, porn on his computer and smoking pot. I've wanted to break up with him, but haven't done it. Now I've discovered he may have lied to me about his virginity. His friend opened his mouth and told me how much they used to do it. I confronted him with it, and he said she was a liar and always was trying to ruin his life. I didn't know what to believe. Yesterday, another girl messaged me saying she had sex with him, too. I feel so betrayed, but he says it's not true. I don't want to believe him because of all the lying hehas already done, but I don't know if I should believe him on this. What do I do?

Seeking Truth

Dear Seeking Truth,

I can only imagine that if you were standing next to the bed while your boyfriend was losing his virginity to someone else and he told you it was an optical illusion, you would try your hardest to believe it. Unless this guy has more than one virginity (and he doesn't), he's probably lying — AGAIN! I mean, he is a liar. And you're just lying to yourself. Why you can't face the truth is what I would focus on after you move on. I also would get tested for any possible sexual souvenirs. That's the truth.