Looking for Love

Dear Harlan,

It seems as if I attract only one kind of guy — the kind that is rough and puts on an "I don't care about you" front. I want to know why it is that I'm never lucky at love. I feel ugly, and despite all of this, I want to be loved. I just can't seem to find anyone. My whole life has been this way. I'm just tired. Please, Harlan —help!

Looking for Love

Dear Looking for Love,

Here's a gift to you this holiday season — The world is filled with millions of successful, attractive and respectful men who are keeping a BIG secret from you. The secret is that they want the same things you want, but they are not approaching you.

Need proof? While there never have been more ways for single people to make connections, there never have been more single people without meaningful connections.

So, this is a call out to all women who want to be loved this year. Make this year, 2009, a year of action. Make this the year that you will ask out men — lots of men. Forget pride. Forget

old-fashioned values. Go after us. And when you do your approaching, make it clear how you need to be treated. If a man can't respond — move on. Millions of men are out there. WE love being approached. WE want you to approach us. I know some women will read this and think, "I want a man who is confident enough to approach me." You can think this, but you'll think it alone. Take this advice, and 2009 will be the year you get lucky in love.