Dear Harlan,
My boyfriend of one year broke up with me and kicked me out of our apartment. I moved here to be with him. I didn't have anyone else here and was helpless. I was going to school and working, so I couldn't just leave. I found a room for rent until the end of the semester. At first, he said he wanted me back and he missed me. A week later, he hates me. He e-mailed me saying he hates me and that I'm ugly, pathetic and need to get a life. He wishes he never met me. He doesn't think I loved him as much as he loved me. I hope this time will help me get my life together again, but I can't help but hold on to this pain. I know I don't want somebody like that in my life, but I just don't understand how someone could say such hurtful things with absolutely no remorse. I don't know what to do.
Out and Lost
Hold on one sec - I need to wait for my blood to stop boiling before replying.
ReplyDeleteOK (it's just simmering).
Without question, YOU are beautiful, sensitive and too strong for him. HE is sad, weak, mean, angry, ugly, toxic and abusive. His goal is to break you down to the point where you feel like nothing - then he'll come in and rescue you. STAY AWAY. Don't answer his e-mails. Ignore his phone calls. He might apologize to get you back, but all he wants back is control. Hope that he gets help. He's sick. That's how someone could be so terrible. That's what sad, pathetic abusers do. Be grateful you're out of his world - it's a gift.
- Harlan
easier said than done, harlan. im speaking from currant experiance. i am also in a relationship like the one this girl is writing about. for a year i have been putting up with such horrible comments and put downs from the person i am seeing and i feel like nothing. which is what he wants. i know this. but im still here. why? i hope this girl can take your advise. i wish i could.
ReplyDeletei definitely have to agree with harlan!you need to totally stay away from this ,abusive,compulsive,manipulative loser!your to good to waste time on this jerk!your better than that!yeah its gonna be hard and yeah it is easier said than done but if you have the will power and you believe in yourself you can do it!!just tell him your through him and thats final! NO if's,and's or but's!you can do it!!
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