Hello Harlan,
My problem is with my older sister. About two years ago, my sister dated my boyfriend's brother for about six months and it ended VERY badly. My boyfriend and I asked her and his brother not to date because she was going through a divorce with a guy who has been friends with my boyfriend and his brother since high school. Everyone knew everyone. Recently, my sister started dating another one of my friends. This friend and I happened to have had a few sexual encounters about three years ago and have been friends for about eight years, even after we slept together. Now he is dating my sister, and I can't help but feel really weird about it. My sister knows about us sleeping together and it doesn't seem to bother her or him. But I feel very uncomfortable when he comes over to hang out with her. Oh, by the way, my sister and I live together, so it's in my face. I value my group of friends and I love my sister, but I wish she would just stay away from them, at least romantically. What can I do? Please help!
Seething Sister
Hello Sister,
At least she's consistent and predictable. No, this is not cool, but she's looking for a love connection. And really, it can be hard to meet people. She probably thinks you're selfish for not wanting her to find happiness (no, I'm not defending her, just sharing her possible point of view). Here's what I would do. First, I would consider moving out. The last thing you need is a roommate (and sister) who dates all your friends and thinks there's nothing wrong with that. Next, I'd explain how uncomfortable this makes you and why. Don't tell her what she's done wrong; explain how uncomfortable this situation makes you feel. Then, I would make it clear to your former "friend with benefits" and sister that if things go bad, you are not going to take sides or get involved. Set
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