I just got out of a two-and-a-half-years relationship that was very much me and my ex and our little love story. I didn't give up school or the chance to study abroad (or maintaining a rather high GPA), but I ignored most of my friends. Now I'm a second-semester senior who's pretty darn lonely. I feel like I'm starting over from scratch in terms of looking for new people to hang out with. I have two actual friends left - one of whom is in her own relationship - but as much as I try, I can't fight off the feeling that everyone already has their group and I should just put my nose to the grindstone for the next few months and call it a loss.
- Lonely but Liberated
Dear Liberated,
There's nothing lost here. This is all a big win. I'm SO excited for you. The possibilities are endless. You can travel and see friends on other campuses. You can get a fun part-time job using your newfound extra time (the job can pay for the trips). You can attend activities and events you never attended in the past (go on your own or invite people from class who look interesting). You can take up yoga or pilates or something active at the gym (go on your own and meet people). You can go on an adventure trip (hiking, rock climbing, etc.). You can go on an alternative spring break (driving in a car for hours will help you bond quickly). You can date and fall in love. This time is a huge gift. Not everyone has 15 friends to hang out with (I never did). And the people who do mostly only feel connected to a few of them. When you're doing all these cool things, forget about what people think. Who cares what they think? Give everyone permission to think you are the most independent, adventurous, exciting, dynamic and free-spirited woman. This time is a gift. Love every minute!
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